Revitalize your relationship

You are finding yourselves in a place where you both feel stuck, unseen, and alone. Yet you want to save this, you want to get back to your best days. There’s a dynamic of anxious attacking and pursuing that is met with avoidant distancing and withdrawing. You have no idea how to calm each other down and frankly, sometimes you don’t want to even bother. Sex? Yeah right. That’s suffering as well. This is all draining you of your life force, impairing your functioning in all areas (personal, professional, financial, spiritual), and pushing you further apart. I’d love to help you become experts on each other and to build a secure functioning relationship that creates vs. depletes energy. 

My rate: $250/hr

Psychobiological Approach

I am trained in the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) which combines attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and developmental neuroscience. The work is very experiential and “bottom up” (tuning into your body + your partner’s body) as well as cognitive and “top down” (rational, educational, with tasks, solutions, and plans). I am also trained in RLT, which deals with unequal power dynamics and emotional abuse.

Specialties

The root of couples therapy, secure functioning, and all of my training is SAFETY.

We will help you become experts on each other’s emotional states, how to regulate each other’s nervous systems, and how to communicate with each other non-violently.

Specialties:

  • High-conflict

  • Communication issues

  • Intimacy / desire discrepancies

  • Premarital counseling

  • Tune up